Saturday, May 31, 2025
Culture Creep: Notes on the Pop Apocalypse by Alice Bolin
Tuesday, May 20, 2025
Aggregated Discontent: Confessions of the Last Normal Woman by Harron Walker
Aggregated Discontent: Confessions of the Last Normal Woman by Harron Walker
Big thanks to Random House Publishing Group and NetGalley
for sending me an advanced copy of Harron Walker’s collection of essays and
articles titled Aggregated Discontent: Confessions of the Last Normal Woman.
This book was not on my radar, but I am so glad I received a digital copy. This
was a thoughtful and intriguing collection of essays and articles, showcasing
Walker’s range as a writer and culture critic. I was not familiar with Harron
Walker’s writing but will keep my eye out for her articles since I found these
articles both humorous and enlightening. I laughed and learned throughout this
book, while also appreciating Walker’s candor and willingness to share about
her experiences as a trans woman since hers is not an experience that I am
familiar with. When I started this book, I thought that maybe Walker was one of
the first trans woman writers, but throughout her book, she frequently cites
other authors, auteurs, activists, and artists who also happen to be trans. Reading
Walker’s essays, for me, was like opening up a curtain to a new range of
experiences for a group that it seems is increasingly marginalized and
stigmatized. Walker makes note of this, but also challenges those perceptions throughout
her essays. I thoroughly appreciated how her work humanizes a group that was mislabeled
as a threat to children during the last presidential election. Although I no
longer live in PA, I’m close enough to Philly to catch many of the radio
stations, and I was shocked to hear that the current PA senator’s pitch to be
elected was fear mongering about the (non) threat of trans athletes, promising
to protect female athletes in PA. One of the last essays in the collection
highlights the increasing number of legislation against people who identify as
trans, and as Walker explains, often pushes them to seek out treatments, medication,
and other care in the black market, which not only puts a vulnerable group like
the Trans community at further risk, but it also possibly creates further
health risks. While Walker documents the more recent legislation, Cynthia Carr’s
amazing biography of Candy Darling (Candy Darling: Dreamer, Icon, Superstar)
noted how her cancer was most likely a result of malpractice with doctors giving
her bad hormone pills.
I really enjoyed all of these articles, but I felt like
Walker is at her best when she is surveying the work of an artist or critiquing
an aspect of society. “Pick Me”, the second essay, is an interesting critique
of the kind of the performative activism seen on social media and more recently
by major corporations. She starts the article by recounting her own experience
working in a store, appreciating the people she encounters, when she is
notified of a new campaign to elevate the voices of Trans employees at a
popular store. This prompts her to visit the stores, wondering how many Trans
workers they actually employ in several of their Manhattan locations.
Furthermore, Walker documents the various statistics and Trans testimonials
that are displayed on LED screens in the storefront window. I usually don’t
think much about these kinds of events, but Walker’s thoughtfulness to dig
deeper and be skeptical of this campaign speaks through her experiences and
challenges with finding and maintaining work as a Trans woman. Many of the
articles focus on Walker’s experiences with work, an area that often is a
challenge for people who identify as Trans. Walker finds that despite the
campaign, there are no Trans workers in any of the 6 stores, although many of
the clerks mention that there may be some corporate employees who identify as
Trans. Her questioning and critique emphasizes that while it is good to raise
awareness of the challenges that Trans people face, they still face barriers to
areas like employment, housing, and appropriate medical care, and this company
seemed to not contribute to making things better. It was also interesting to
consider how the media often reports on Trans issues, framing it almost always
as dire and at-risk. While there disheartening statistics about the disparity that
many Trans people experience, Harron also challenges this notion by presenting other
stories highlighting Trans couples preparing for children and how supportive and
“mothering” the Trans community is.
“Discontent”, the next essay, is a harrowing portrait of
Walker’s work in media, and the challenges she faces navigating a problematic
boss who wasn’t even sure what she wanted. While my work experiences have been
mostly positive, I’ve definitely had some challenging bosses to work for;
however, Harron’s job was providing her with health care that would ultimately
pay for her transition, so her experience navigating the kind of harassment and
disparity in treatment and expectations were downplayed to a certain extent to
pursue her healthcare. This article demonstrated the kind of work challenges
that Trans people face, as well as the difficulties in obtaining the health
care that they need, and the kinds of mistreatment they might endure to obtain
that kind of care. One of my favorite essays was “What’s New and Different?”,
which is a fabulous sequel to The Devil Wears Prada that somehow
synthesizes another Anne Hathaway film The Intern. It is a brilliant and
hilarious creative juxtaposition that manages to also critique the cruelty of
the “Girlboss” and how that kind of punishment of working women is almost like
a generational trauma, passed down from woman to woman. Walker goes on to critique
other 80s films that are predecessors of The Devil Wears Prada—notably Working
Girls and Working Girl (the more popular film). Throughout these
films, Walker highlights the ways that the woman bosses take advantage of and
mistreat their workers, wondering if this kind of treatment (or mistreatment)
in popular media stems from marginalized identities, and not just gender. It’s
an interesting point to consider, and I loved how Walker investigates this through
film, but also creates this speculative sequel
to popular films. It was also interesting to read about Working Girl,
the Lizzie Borden film that preceded Mike Nicols’ Working Girls. I’ve
read about Born in Flames before, and I’m pretty sure I’ve also read something
about Working Girls, but I’ve never seen this film. Walker’s description
and analysis of the film does make me want to track it down.
“Monkey’s Paw Girl Edition” presents a unique dilemma for
Trans women, and again, it was not something I would have ever considered, but
Walker presents her concern about walking down the street, being aware of her
appearance, and encountering a group of men, hoping that they display misogyny
rather identifying her Transness. This leads into the second part about what
being treated like a woman really means, and experience the mistreatment,
misogyny and harassment they experience.
My favorite piece was “She Wants, She Takes, She Pretends”
which was about the artist Greer Lankton, who I am so glad that I found through
Walker’s article. Taking a break during my reading of this piece, I looked up
Lankton’s amazing doll work and other sculptures, and was transfixed—or maybe
just enthralled with the haunting quality of her work. Walker provides both a
biography and an overview of Lankton’s themes and interests in her work, highlighting
some of the ideas. It was incredibly interesting to learn how Lankton
transitioned, and how her parents played a role in supporting her, although
Walker also notes that there might be some ambiguity or uncertainty about the
role her parents played. Regardless, Lankton was able to transition with her
father’s insurance. It seemed like her parents recognized that Lankton was different
from other boys, and as a result, was possibly lonely. She began creating dolls,
possibly as a way to keep her company, but also as a reflection of herself. One
of the other interesting parts about this article was Walker noting Lankton had
many photobooth pictures of her transitioning, which it sounded like was
something Walker also did to document her own transition. Maybe the dolls were
also a way for her to further alter her image or to further present the possibilities
of her identity and presenting herself to the world. Regardless, I was fascinated
with her work and couldn’t believe I hadn’t heard of her before.
Another favorite was “A Trans Panic, So to Speak,” which
examined Ed Wood’s Glen or Glenda, described as possibly “an
unexpectedly earnest plea for acceptance”, but it also seems to castigate transsexuals
with the Alan/Ann subplot. As Walker explains, both stories have paths to
acceptance, where Glen is social, Ann’s is medical, with hormones and surgery. I
didn’t realize that there were these attempts to draw “some distance between
themselves and other sexual deviants. Rather than trying to find common ground
with all the homosexuals, transsexuals, and drag queens…” This article not only
takes a unique approach to analyzing a classic Z movie, but also finds a way to
examine how these attempts at representation and normalizing ended up further
stigmatizing marginalized groups like the Trans community. Walker also brings
in her own experience with her date, and questioning his own gender identity, possibly
due to his “ethical non-monogamy”, which I wasn’t even aware was a thing.
Again, I felt like I learned so much from this book. The last few articles, “Sterility”,
“Fertility”, and In/fertility” all dealt with further barriers and complications
Trans men and women face, but Walker also ties in her own experiences as well
as those of friends and prominent Trans activists and artists. These were also some
excellent chapters that all touched on topics related to family, relationships,
and health. There were great points to consider, especially about the idea of
family and what it means to people who identify as Trans. Walker explains how
the Trans community has becoming mothering, and how many older Trans members
end up taking on roles where they mother the younger generation who may have
been turned out by family and face barriers to housing and jobs. Walker not
only examines this supportive community, but is also turning her critical eye
back to these barriers and access to care and basic necessities of survival,
and how members of the Trans community are often more at risk due to their
marginalized status in society. We see this even more within the past few
months of the new/old administration that continues its assault on non-normative
groups. If anything, Walker’s book is coming out at the perfect time to confront
the disinformation and biases. Although I’m not sure whether anyone in the
White House reads at all, I can see these essays being valuable in the kinds of
anthologies used in first year writing courses. Walker’s perspective brings an
important but often under-represented eye to important issues that most young
people will experience either in college or after graduation. Plus, her work is
funny and humanizing; that is, it shows us how Trans people live, laugh, and
love, while also raising awareness about the barriers and issues with accessibility
they often face. I really hope that instructors and curriculum developers
consider incorporating any of these essays into their courses. Highly
recommended collection!
Friday, May 16, 2025
More EC Horrors: EC Cruel Universe Vol. 1
EC Cruel Universe Vol. 1
Big thanks to Oni Press and NetGalley for providing me with
an advanced copy of their second EC relaunch Cruel Universe Vol. 1. I
read a version in the NetGalley reader, and was primarily reading them on my iPad,
which provided a great viewing experience, since I was able to see larger
panels in vibrant color. I am really enjoying these reboots. Although sometimes
I feel like these reboots and updated versions lack creativity or imagination,
I think the stories in both EC Collections (Epitaphs from the Abyss is
the horror themed, Tales from the Crypt version) are unique and present some
modern takes on horror and technology, while also maintaining the ironic twists
of fate that are a part of the original EC comics. While the Epitaphs from the Abyss was more of a horror themed set of stories, this collection was
focused on science fiction and a kind of dystopia. I initially thought this would
be strictly sci-fi, but there are stories that are horror themed and also
feature the kind of cosmic horror that is in the vein of H.P. Lovecraft. Throughout
all the stories, the artwork is great. I noticed in a few stories, there are
some common themes in some of the outcomes to individuals in the stories, and I
was surprised at the level of gore for a sci-fi collection. However, as the
title indicates, these tales are part of a Cruel Universe, where people
are subject to violence and brutality, as well as the whims of fate. In really
enjoyed the space themed stories and those with aliens. I thought the artwork
for these stories was particularly striking and original. Many of the aliens
captured the kind of Lovecraftian image of Cthulhu, with tentacles and octopus-like
appearances. One of the earliest stories, “Solo Shift”, features an interesting
image of a black hole with really great colors. I also liked the kind of socio-economic
themes that ran throughout stories like “Priceless” , “Organic”, “And the
Profit Said…”, and “Paring Knife”, which all deal with people on the fringes of
society or who are subject to a lower social ranking than others. In these
stories, there is some kind of ironic twist at the end where we see how those
with power maybe are not as powerful as they once seemed or their arrogance
brings about a downfall, akin to hamartia in Greek tragedy. Other stories tell
of the dark side of technology, and some are particularly relevant today. “Drink
Up” was a unique and short tale about a rich man’s quest for immortality, as was
“Billionaire Trust”, which had a particularly interesting ending. “Automated”
was the story of a tech titan and car designer who brings about the destruction
of society with his overreliance on automation (sound familiar?). I also really
enjoyed “The Deleted Man”, which shows the lengths that people may go to in
order to have their online histories “altered”. Two other favorites were “We
Drown on Earth” and “The Ink Spot Test” for their creativity and illustrations.
“We Drown on Earth” was especially Lovecraftian, but also focuses on the kinds
of risks and problems that corporations exert on their workers. The creatures
in the story are particularly creepy and well-drawn. I loved the background art
in “The Ink Spot Test”, and the story is somewhat similar to a book I just
finished on MKULTRA. I also really enjoyed the covers presented at the back of
the book. There were some awesome illustrations there as well.
Overall, this was a great collection. I really enjoyed these
stories, and most of them were great with unique and innovative twists and
timely stories that are relevant to our current climate, and yet still maintain
an element of that classic EC twist of fate. Highly recommended!
America's Hidden History of Mind Control: Project Mind Control: Sidney Gottlieb, the CIA, and the Tragedy of MKULTRA by John Lisle
Project Mind Control: Sidney Gottlieb, the CIA, and the Tragedy of MKULTRA by John Lisle
Major thanks to St. Martin’s Press and NetGalley for
providing me with an advanced copy of John Lisle’s deeply researched book about
a horrible hidden history in America’s intelligence agency Project Mind Control: Sidney Gottlieb, the CIA, and the Tragedy of MKULTRA. I am
fascinated by this period not only because it was classified for many years,
but also because it is so shocking that the American government would allow
indiscriminate human testing with drugs and other forms of psychological
torture even after the Belmont Report. However, I think that Lisle recognizes
how this kind of thinking and action are part of the continuous pendulum that
swings back and forth across American history. He states this argument well in one of the
last chapters that provides a kind of analysis and evaluation of MKULTRA and its
impact on later clandestine actions of intelligence agencies like the CIA and NSA:
“As the previous examples show,
MKULTRA was not a fluke. Rather, it was the norm in a system that lacks
meaningful external oversight and lets perpetrators of abuses avoid
accountability for their actions, a system in which the vicious cycle of
secrecy pushes the pendulum too far toward security at the expense of liberty.”
I really appreciated this insight, and I think it is
something that is lacking in other books about MKULTRA and Gottlieb. I’ve read
a few books about this topic, and Chaos by Tom O’Neill and Poisoner in Chief by Stephen Kinzer both explore similar grounds, yet also delved
into specific areas, with Kinzer’s book providing an overview of Gottlieb’s
career and various projects in the CIA. What separates Lisle’s book is the
deposition transcripts that were used as much of the basis for each of the
chapters. These provide some important insight into the various projects that
Gottlieb was involved in, and also serve as launching points for Lisle to
explore these projects and the individuals who were affected by them. At first,
it was a little jarring to read through these transcripts and I wished that Lesle
provided some insight into the organization of the book; however, about ¼ of
the way through the book, I got used to this approach and actually appreciated
how these transcripts helped to inform the other parts of the chapter.
Furthermore, they also allowed Lisle to take a broader approach than Kinzer or
O’Neill and examine many of the sub-projects that were included under the
MKULTRA program. Readers also learn how the project initially developed in
response to the belief that prisoners of war taken by North Korea and individuals
in other Communist countries (especial Cardinal Mindszenty from Hungary) experienced
a kind of through reform (or informally known as brainwashing). Not really
aware that this kind of shift could be the result of coercive physical punishment
like torture, the American government enlisted scientists and psychologists to explore
the various questions related to mind control, wondering if it were possible to
not only alter one’s belief system and values, but also to possibly alter their
behavior. As Lisle notes in the final chapters and epilogue, this secretive collaboration
between intelligence agencies, psychologists, especially behaviorists, and
scientists was also what we later found out about in the war on terror and the
1980s war on Communism that brought about the Iran Contra Scandal. As Lisle notes,
it’s this kind of fear of other ideologies that ends up deferring power to intelligence, which leads
to secrecy, which invites further abuse. It’s a common thread we see in the fight
against Communism, the fight against terrorism, and even now with the “belief”
that America is under attack by immigrants, although it seems like the abuses are
much more blatant, telegraphed and promoted online to send a message. One of
the other interesting conclusions that Lisle draws in regards to programs like
MKULTRA is the role of that conspiracy theories play in furthering these
abuses. Lisle shows how the CIA has not really addressed this scandal, and the
fact that Gottlieb and others destroyed the files leads to an absence of
evidence. “All claims need some empirical support to have any credibility. Yet
in the twisted world of conspiracy theories, an absence of evidence is itself
evidence of a cover-up. Nothing is proven, nothing can be disproven.” Lisle
explains that many have gone on to use these kinds of absences to connect dots
and create their own theories and beliefs for various outcomes and events. One
example is school shootings and the belief that these are used as a pretext to
remove guns from people. Another is the various reasons for COVID closures and
how this is a scheme by the “deep state” to engage in various actions that will
take away liberty. Lisle goes on to write “Like McCarthyism during the Red
Scare, these sensational claims generate fear, which generates coverage, which
generates converts. Ironically, the conspiracy theorists have managed to
manipulate more people than MKULTRA ever did,” providing an interesting current
analogy to what is happening now with all of the disinformation and “flooding
the zone” to not only manipulate people, but also as a means to call to action,
using fear as a primal motivator. I really appreciated this insight and
analysis that Lisle provides to link up that idea about how behaviorist
techniques are often employed in our current political climate. Lisle also
makes a note about how the political landscape in America also further allows
this kind of approach where there is limited governance and more focus on
appealing to emotion- winning the minds through the hearts—and how this also
contributes to the limited oversight in intelligence abuse. It’s an interesting
idea and throughline that I don’t recall was in some of these other books (or
documentaries like Wormwood and Chaos, based on the O’Neill
book).
Lisle reviews some of the other cases that were in Kinzer’s
book, notably the Frank Olson tragedy (which was the basis for the Wormwood documentary
series). Lisle also explores the roles that other agents and psychiatrists
played in MKULTRA’s research. In particular, there is time spent on the abuse
perpetrated by George White in Operation Midnight Climax, where he used safe
houses in San Francisco and New York to drug people on the fringes of society. The
unwitting drugging of these people was due to the belief that they were less
likely to report the abuses or even question the drugging. Lisle also shares
the attempted follow up that happened after President Ford’s inquiry into CIA misdeeds,
and it was sad to see how these single drugging may have induced paranoia and
mental illness in some of the victims. Similarly, Lisle also highlights the
abuses perpetrated by Dr. Ewen Cameron, a Canadian psychologist whose
experiments in mind control were horrific. Kinzer also explored Cameron’s
abuses in Poisoner in Chief, and Cameron was also the subject of CBC
podcast. However, Lisle focuses more on the patients and what they endured, and
also follows up on some of their lives and the consequences of Cameron’s abuse.
One of his most notorious attempts to erase and reprogram individuals was
through a process called “psychic driving” where patients were forced to listen
to tape loops, often words or phrases they despised or were upsetting to them,
while in a continued drug-induced state for weeks at a time. As Lisle notes,
many times the effects were catastrophic, reducing adult subjects to infant
like states where they were unable to care for themselves. In the end of the
book, Lisle also follows a lawyer for some of these victims, Joseph Raugh, who sought
compensation from the US and the Canadian governments for these wrongdoings.
This examination of the pursuit of justice was also interesting to see, as
Lisle documents the challenges that Raugh experienced in attempting to challenge
the secretive agencies involved in these abuses.
I really enjoyed learning more about this topic through
Lisle’s research and reporting. At first, I was a little concerned that this
was going to be similar to Kinzer’s book, but Lisle approach is to go for more
breadth while also taking some more depth with those projects and people who
were involved in the peripheries of MKULTRA. Furthermore, I thought that the
final chapters that detail the consequences of MKULTRA in fueling further
conspiracies as well as other clandestine programs enacted under the guise of
protecting and securing America were some of the strongest in the book. It was
an apt and timely conclusion to draw as we continue to witness daily attempts
at a form of mind control through disinformation (or censorship through noise),
conspiracy theories, and the kind of methodologies employed by cults to manipulate
and modify behavior (The BITE method-Behavior, Information, Thought, and
Emotion). This section was especially important in becoming a more critical
consumer of information, whether it is through the media, online, or in print.
I’m glad that Lisle’s book adds some additional insight and ideas into the
discussion about MKULTRA and the history of these kinds of clandestine
operations in America. Furthermore, Lisle’s analysis presents important
messages for the current climate of information, both real and fabricated, why
it is important to be critical when consuming information. Highly recommended
book!
Tuesday, May 13, 2025
Things in Nature Merely Grow by Yiyun Li
Things in Nature Merely Grow by Yiyun Li
Many thanks to Farrar, Straus, and Giroux and NetGalley for allowing
me to read an advanced copy of Yiyun Li’s profound new book Things in Nature Merely Grow. Li is one of my favorite writers. I’ve mostly read her short
stories and novels, but I ended up reading Where Reasons End about 2
years ago. That book, as she describes it in Things in Nature Merely Grow,
was dedicated to her son Vincent, who died by suicide 8 years ago at the age of
17. It’s hard to categorize the book since it blurs so many lines as Li extends
conversations, arguments, and questions she discussed with her son, Vincent. In
some ways, it seems to capture his essence, but in others, it allows her to
continue to speak with him, through her writing. It’s beautiful, haunting, and
like Li’s other writing, incredibly moving. I can’t remember if Li explained
the meaning of the title, but it seemed to suggest that keeping that connection
with Vincent is more important than finding reasons why he decided to take his
life. It also suggests that her continued conversations and questions with Vincent
occur outside of logic and reason, and that both to accept his absence and
continue to remain connected work outside of logic. Li’s latest book, Things in Nature Merely Grow, also examines the loss of her other son, James, who
was Vincent’s younger brother. James also decided to take his own life, and
while Li discusses both sons in this book, she also doesn’t dedicate the book
to James, noting that it wouldn’t have been what he wanted and a book wouldn’t
necessarily be able to capture James’ essence the same way her earlier book attempted
to capture Vincent’s essence. Li’s book transcends boundaries of classification
and operates in its own place, both celebrating the individuality of her two
sons and acknowledging their absences due to suicide. Where Vincent was verbose
and at times argumentative, James was contemplative and quiet, often speaking
with a slight smile, which for Li was filled with possible interpretations,
sometimes in opposition to each other.
Li also explains that while Vincent lived a life of emotion,
James lived a life of logic and reason. As a result, Li seems to take a step
back from the loss of both children and examine the facts. I found this approach
to loss unparalleled. I can’t imagine what I would do in this situation, but Li’s
ability to identify the facts and state them provides a way to work towards the
radical acceptance she describes as helping her process her son’s death. I’m
even struggling with the words to describe this, as Li also mentions other’s
challenges with attempts to console her. Sometimes people reveal their true
intentions, and this was some of the most shocking parts of the book. People
asking for editorial help, people possibly using her employment at Princeton as
an in for their children; it was truly shocking. Nevertheless, Li’s radical
acceptance also seems to help her navigate the difficulties and drains of interacting
with people after a loss. Also as a writer and astute observer of people, Li
seems to be an empath and can seem to intuit others’ feelings. I’m not sure if
I would have been able to be as composed as her.
In addition to navigating other people, Li also spends time
reminiscing about the challenge of parenting. I found her memories of taking
care of her sons while she was finishing up her MFA at Iowa’s Writer’s Workshop
also amazing. She mentioned how much of child care in the early years is both
intuitive and reactive. “One does not master the skills of taking care of a
baby by reading a manual or taking a few classes. One fumbles and blunders,
never certain if one has done everything right. One weeps from exhaustion or
frustration, and one worries and loses sleep over anything, small or large.” An
outcome of this kind of reaction and attempts at appeasing this helpless, tiny
human are frustration, exhaustion, and many times fear and anxiety as well. I
was amazed to learn that Li brought James as an infant to class with her, and
continued to teach a week after giving birth. I was also in graduate school
when my son was born, and I remember how hard it was to find the time to teach
and grade after putting him to bed, hoping that he would just sleep through the
night. These moments in the book when Li reflects on her sons’ lives and her
care and nurturing of both of them in different ways were some of the best
parts of the book. It’s both touching and also imbued, for me, with a sense of longing
in the sense of the Portuguese word saudade, which doesn’t really
translate into English. I remember after my dad died, someone mentioned this
word to me, explaining that it was a word that widows of sailors lost at sea
often used. It’s that feeling of loss and nostalgia, with a lack of
understanding or full knowledge of the whereabouts of the person who was lost. Again,
Li doesn’t mention this word, and also doesn’t seem to wish for things to be
different, and therefore, the memories are beautiful ways to communicate the
qualities and differences of her sons, not necessarily to feel nostalgic. If
anything, as I was reading these detailed glimpses of their childhoods, I could
relate to similar memories of behaviors, predilections, or mannerisms that
seemed to communicate more about our own hopes and beliefs, and possibly our
anxieties, about our children’s futures. Li’s observations and recollections
are detailed, nuanced, and subtle, capturing a quick conversation or response
from her sons, observing how they eat different foods at a café after a weekend
activity, as well as the books they encountered and how these texts influenced
their lives. As a result, reader can witness the sense of care and wonder Li
demonstrates for her sons, noting and appreciating their differences and
providing them with the space and support they needed to develop into authentic
selves. Li contrasts these memories with her own experiences growing up in
China, trained to be a mathematician, but secretly seeking to memorize ancient
poems. She details some of the harshness that she experienced when she
attempted to be her authentic self or express her own unique ideas in a society
and culture that seemed to value conformity and accepting the norms over
challenging them with one’s individuality. She shared some of these memories
with her sons, and in one memory, explained that as a special guest in James’ 2nd
grade class, she shocked his classmates because she said that she didn’t like
candy as a child. The story behind her distaste for candy is shocking, but it pales
in comparison to the cruelty inflicted by her mother, who claims that Yiyun was
the daughter she loved most. Li’s mother’s love can only be expressed through
demands, control, and domination. In another story recalling her childhood, Li describes
one of her mother’s methods to elicit compliance (and possibly guilt or shame)
was to claim that Yiyun had a twin with whom her mother preferred to spend time,
since this daughter was the exact opposite of Yiyun. Li’s mother would lock
Yiyun in a room while her mother and sister would pretend to converse and laugh
with Yiyun’s twin. Even more heartbreaking is the way Li describes her reaction
to this kind of cruelty. I can understand how growing up in this kind of
environment would lead someone to the kind of radical acceptance Li acknowledges
was necessary in dealing with the loss of her sons. I can see how the kind of
absurdity in facing violence and scorn as a child would require a kind of
process of analysis and reflection to try to make sense of these events. It’s
not my place to evaluate whether they are right or wrong or what kind of
influence this had on Li. If anything, it seems to have made her more sensitive
and considerate in how she raised her sons, valuing their qualities and nourishing
their interests and passions.
Li uses the metaphor of gardening to also move towards
radical acceptance, and this metaphor is also where the title comes from. In
nature, plants and flowers grow and die. There are other factors that often
make their growth more challenging- animals, weeds, weather, and while we can
tend to gardens and try to cultivate conditions that allow our plants to
thrive, we cannot control everything about nature. We cannot have continuous
growth throughout the year. Plants die off in the fall and winter, only to grow
again in the spring. Li acknowledges that while weeding and creating deterrents
for animals may be important, she also cannot remain angry or upset at their
nature. I appreciated this metaphor for parenting.
We are always trying to cultivate the best environment and opportunities for
our children to grow. However, we cannot control everything. And while it is in
our nature to grow, it is also in our nature to die. It is a sad reality, but a
fact nonetheless, and a fact that accepting may relieve us of some anger or anxiety.
Li also explains that she doesn’t see grief as a process with an endpoint. It is
something that will be her with always, just as she continues to view herself
as a mother of two sons. I agree with Li’s explanation of grief; while my
situation is nowhere near Li’s, even though my father has been dead for some
time, there’s still a kind of hole or emptiness. While this hole was much
greater in the time right after he died, it’s gradually reduced in size over
the subsequent years. Yet, there’s always going to be reminders about his
absences. My kids have never met him, and they always have questions about him.
My wife never met him either, and she’s asked how they might get along. I
wonder how he would view my home, what advice he might give, what he would
think about the world right now. It’s not something that makes me sad or
nostalgic, but just something that is there- a slight opening or void that is a
part of me. For me, Li’s explanation of grief of having no terminal point is
relevant in this regard. I also appreciated the book from this perspective. It’s
not like a manual explaining what to do or how to act in the event of loss, but
Li explains how she continued to engage in her regular activities right after James’
death. She mentions going to a piano lesson in the week after James’ death, and
talking with her teacher, and struggling with learning the pieces, but seeming
to do well with a strange collection of piano exercises from Hanon that a
friend described as “demented”. She doesn’t mention that these pieces relieved
her or brought her joy, but rather it was something to do, something she could
focus on to occupy her. In another section, she presents some practices she
felt were important, and these included things like hydration, exercise, and getting
up at a regular time. When my dad was in the hospital dying, I felt a similar
kind of way, and it is actually how I started running. I just had all this
nervous energy, and I felt like I couldn’t be at the hospital until I ran a few
miles before hand, burning off some of the energy, but also making me more
willing to accept how close death was to me. I also realized that I didn’t want
to just sit around and ruminate, and that I needed to keep busy and occupy
myself. I remember not really crying until a few weeks after his funeral, when
it finally hit me. It’s definitely important to experience that kind of
emotion, but at the same time, Li also mentions not allowing herself the time
to ruminate in bed. I really appreciated this insights for helping someone navigate
this unimaginable loss.
Finally, the other part of the book that stood out to me was
how reading and writing factored into Li’s days after James’ death. She has
mentioned reading Tolstoy in Where Reasons End, but in this book she mentioned
several other works she frequently turned to after James’ death. Li references
Greek and Shakespeare’s tragedies, but also noting that “Those ancient Greeks
sing their grief at the highest pitch, which, as Carson pointed out, is rage.
Their grief and their rage are nearly untranslatable, as though feelings in
extremity can only be physical sensations— the language assails the readers with
a blind and blunt force.” As she further explains, she didn’t necessarily lose
her words, but they said something she had not and expressed their grief in
another, more violent manner. While sometimes literature may present this kind
of grief as a madness, Li’s reference to Constance’s grief in King John
shows that our outward signs of grief can often be misconstrued, especially
when the vocabulary of grief is so ill-defined by others. I really appreciated
Li’s literary references to grief and loss throughout the book, as they help us
understand how others may process grief. Not everyone may seek comfort in words
(words, words, words), but reading and writing allow us not to ruminate. It’s
interesting also since I recently read Sarah Chihaya’s brave memoir Bibliophobia
about how books and reading can be both an experience in joy and exploration
but also can bring terror and depression. Chihaya cites one of Li’s other books
about Li’s own experience with depression and her suicide attempts. I haven’t
read that book yet. I’ve almost been a little intimidated to engage with it.
Yet, for Li, books, works of literature, plays, music, and other forms of art
can be part of the process leading to radical acceptance. Recognizing that we
aren’t alone in this, and being able to approach the facts of the situation and
not impose our own reasons or blame for the events may help in this process. I’ll
have to go back through this book to look at the reading list. While I may not
want to read all of these works, it’s always good to receive recommendations. I’ll
also have to revisit this book at other times; it’s such a beautiful book filled
with touching moments, but also an awareness that things in nature grow. It’s
not a manual, but it’s also not quite a memoir. It’s almost like meditations,
where Li is able to deeply reflect on her sons’ lives and deaths. I’m very
grateful for her willingness to be so honest and reflective, so thoughtful and
considerate when the world may not always be the same.
Saturday, May 10, 2025
Questions about Creativity, Commerce, Corporations in Ling Ling Huang's Immaculate Conception
Immaculate Conception by Ling Ling Huang
Thursday, May 8, 2025
A Unique Twist on Haunted Houses: The Manor of Dreams by Christina Li
The Manor of Dreams by Christina Li
Thanks to Avid Reader Press/Simon & Schuster and
NetGalley for providing me with an advanced copy of Christina Li’s exciting and
intriguing new novel The Manor of Dreams. I enjoyed this book for its
genre bending story and plot twists, as well as tracking how the characters
have changed and what events affected them throughout their lifetimes in the
alternating timelines between past and present. Furthermore, Li has some lucid
and haunting descriptions of the atmosphere, landscape, and decay for the
setting of this novel in a renovated family mansion that has fallen into
disrepair once again. While this supernatural mystery might not be for
everyone, I thought that Li’s writing, plot twists, and characters created a
compelling and engaging world that kept me reading during the second half of
the book. I also loved the play on words with the title, how it might refer to
a dream house, but it is also about the nature of our dreams and what they
mean. Vivian Yin, one of the main characters, experiences strange, haunting
visions once she moves into Yin Manor, the house of her husband’s family that
he has renovated for both of them. Other characters also experience similar
strange visions, tremors in the middle of the night, and plants that seem to
want to consume people.
The Manor of Dreams starts with the recent death of
one of its main characters, Vivian Yin, the first Chinese actress to win an
Academy Award. Her surviving daughters, Rennie and Lucy and Madeline, Lucy’s
daughter, arrive at the house to review the will and sort through their Ma’s
items. However, they were unaware that the daughter of her mother’s housekeeper
and gardener, Elaine Deng, would be in attendance with her daughter Nora. “Part
One: Root” establishes an incredible amount of tension between these two groups
of women, the Yins and the Dengs. Lucy and Rennie have not seen Elaine for some
time, and based on the tension and Elaine’s rule that Nora should not speak to
the Yins, Li has established that there is some bad feelings and resentment
between these two families. To add to the tension, Lucy and Rennie are
surprised to learn that their mother only had about $20,000 to leave them as an
inheritance, and Vivian left the house to Elaine. This surprise gift, along
with learning that Vivian changed her will about one week prior to her death
adds to Lucy’s suspicion that Elaine had something to do with Vivian’s death.
Lucy begins to investigate, while Elaine digs in and claims the house as her
rightful inheritance, although she does allow Lucy, Madeline, and Rennie to
stay in the house and sort through Vivian’s things for the week. Lucy really
wants to search around for evidence of Elaine’s involvement in the will change
and Vivian’s death. This section also establishes some of the traits of these
characters as we learn that both Lucy and Rennie lived privileged lives,
attending boarding schools. Lucy became a lawyer, while Rennie pursued acting
and modeling. Neither was particularly close with Vivian in her last years, as
Vivian seemed to become a recluse, rarely going out and even firing home help
aides that Lucy hired. We also learn that Elaine was in a PhD program, but
eventually left since it was not a career for her and Nora was about to be
born. Both daughters, Madeline and Nora, are right around the same age, yet have
had different experiences that bring them to this strange encounter over a contested
house. Furthermore, both daughters receive warnings to keep out of the garden,
yet both are somehow drawn there, with Madeline eventually ending up there.
This garden appears strange, and offers some of Li’s most atmospheric and
interesting descriptions: “She leaned in, expecting the buds to have a faint,
sweet scent. But instead the petals emitted that raw, sharp odor of rust.” Flowers,
especially these kinds of strange, decaying and rotting varieties, feature
prominently throughout the book, and not only contribute to the atmospheric mood
of the book, but also represent the kind of decay and rot that is apparent throughout
the house as well. Li’s writing and descriptions of the various decay around the
house contribute to the feeling that death and decay are all around, and this
kind of rotten decay is gradually overtaking the living, having some kind of
impact on their behavior, their well-being, and their interactions with one another.
I loved the way that Li includes this kind of symbolism throughout the book,
and how the decay permeates throughout the plot. This section ends with Madeline
somehow being engulfed by the plant and Nora coming to her rescue, tending to the
wounds that the plant inflicted. I read The Ruins by Scott Smith last
summer, and Li’s The Manor of Dreams might come in second to having some
of the creepiest plants in a book.
“Part Two: Bloom” begins to examine the past to learn more
about how Vivian Yin met her husband, the actor Richard Lowell, and how Vivian
eventually broke into acting and attained acclaim and an Academy Award. These
chapters alternate between the 70s, 80s, 90s, and the present. I also enjoyed
the structure of the book, how readers are confronted with this mystery of why
Vivian didn’t leave the house to her daughters, but rather to the daughter of her
gardener and housekeeper with whom she seemingly had no contact for decades.
These chapters gradually reveal what happened, helping readers understand not
only Vivian’s background, but also those of Elaine and her younger sister
Sophie. We not only learn more about Vivian’s experiences and struggles as a
single mother and aspiring actress in 1970s California, but we also see the
challenges she faces as a person of color and how limited roles were for her in
films. Richard, on the other hand, seems to be a coveted actor who winds
acclaim and seems to easily take on roles in popular and acclaimed movies.
Nevertheless, the couple has a kind of competitive spirit between them that
pushes them to excel in acting and to seek out other opportunities in
filmmaking. Furthermore, Richard is interested in renovating his mother’s
childhood home, which the family sold years ago. His fixation on the past and
desire to recreate the past glory of his family in his own image bring about
challenges, as he and Vivian experience a long period of fixing up the house,
that almost never seems to end. Furthermore, when they move in, there are strange
occurrences like tremors that only Richard feels, burst pipes, and hallucinations
that Vivian witnesses. Vivian learns more about Richard’s family, although she learns
through local library research since Richard doesn’t seem to want to discuss his
family’s background. I found this a little odd, not only with Richard, but with
so many of the characters in the book. While Richard especially seemed
interested in rehabbing his family manor and reshaping it into his own vision,
he didn’t really want to talk about his family history. Lucy, Rennie, and
Elaine also don’t like to discuss their pasts with their daughters, and it
seemed strange that they were all willing to meet up in this decrepit house and
fight over its ownership, despite not really acknowledging the painful pasts
that they share. However, I think that this is part of the message in the book-
that there are consequences for failing to acknowledge one’s past, and that
sometimes, failing to acknowledge the past can create a kind of haunting experience.
I won’t provide any additional plot details because there
are many twists and unexpected turns throughout the book. Furthermore, Li’s parallel
narratives that move between the present and the past help to unravel the
mystery of why Vivian was leaving the home to Elaine and not her daughters.
Initially, we are only left with Vivian’s final words to her lawyer, Reid
Lyman, that leaving the home to her daughters would “ruin them.” As we move
through Vivian’s past, her relationship and marriage to Richard, and the
challenges she faced in Hollywood as an actor of color trying to find parts, we
learn more about the steps she’s taken to protect her daughters and ensure they
have the best in their lives. We also see that Richard’s family, including his
mother, whose microaggressions towards her new daughter-in-law, distance
themselves from the house, leaving readers to wonder whether the house itself
is cursed, or whether there are other factors that may affect inhabitants of
the house. I appreciated the ambiguity and mystery in this story, and Li’s gradual
reveal of the backstory presents some intriguing events and twists. However, Li’s
descriptions of the house, gardens, and flowers were especially evocative and effective
in conveying the sense of decay and decadence within the home. This was the
section that I couldn’t put down, and the short chapters that offered
alternating perspectives of the different characters and their histories kept
me engaged in the story. There is a final part of the book, “Rot”, that jumps
back to the present and provides a climatic end to the story. Again, I don’t
want to spoil this book since I hope that others will read it. Nevertheless, I
really enjoyed this book. It wasn’t exactly what I expected. Although it is
mysterious, I appreciated Li’s use of a kind of gothic horror throughout. Li
presents a unique portrayal of the haunted house story, and leaves readers
wondering about the nature of deceit, evil, and violence in relationships.
Furthermore, it was interesting to note that these aren’t just romantic
relationships, but we also see family relationships, and how withholding
information and past events can impact our relationships with parents and
siblings. Li’s symbolic use of decay throughout, whether in the house, plants,
or even the hallucinations that some characters experience, also help to create
the mysterious and eerie atmosphere of the book. I also appreciated how Li
included Chinese language- characters and words- throughout the book to
emphasize Vivian’s heritage and how she worked to maintain her culture in an
industry and city that tended to stereotype her. It’s not something that I
mentioned throughout this review, but it is another important part of the book.
This is an exciting and engaging read. Highly recommended!