Thursday, February 27, 2025

Personal Poems that Transform the Everyday to Extraordinary: Jane Wong's How to Not Be Afraid of Everything

 How to Not Be Afraid of Everything 

by Jane Wong


Poet Jane Wong

I was so excited to find Jane Wong’s collection of poems How to Not Be Afraid of Everything in my local library. A few years ago, I read Wong’s excellent memoir Meet Me Tonightin Atlantic City. Her memoir details her early years growing up as a daughter of Chinese immigrants who owned a restaurant in Atlantic City, and continues focusing on her education and scholarship, which have all influenced her art and writing. I was also excited to read this collection since I don’t get to read poetry as much as I used to. I’ve read a few collections over the past few years, but sadly, I don’t encounter poetry as much as I once did as an English major. I was intermittently feasting on Wong’s words over the course of a few weeks and was satisfied by this collection. I noticed many recurring themes in these poems and in Wong’s memoir. I think that my favorite element of Wong’s poems in this collection is her ability to recognize the beauty in ordinary items and daily activities. Maybe it was growing up in a restaurant and playing around the food, the appliances, and the leftovers, but some of the poems detail life in the restaurant kitchen and outback, finding joy and adventure in what many adults would overlook. It’s this ability to take a childlike eye and transform the everyday that makes these poems transcendent and enjoyable. It’s also a reminder for me that poetry has the ability to closely examine an object or event and transform it to something exquisite or extraordinary. I really enjoyed this aspect of her writing. Other poems reflect and honor her family, especially her relatives from China, focusing on both the foods that nourished them as well as the tragedies and hardships that eventually brought them to America. At the center of Wong’s collection is the longer poem “When You Died,” which examines both the Great Leap Forward, when China tried to revolutionize agriculture, which resulted in over 35 million dead, and Wong’s own relatives that she never met. Like the art installation she created, her poem seeks to nourish her family’s hungry ghosts, and she uses food imagery throughout to both honor and forge her own connection with her ancestors. It’s a striking, powerful poem that I will need to revisit to further understand. Another theme is the autobiographical nature of her poems where Wong explores both her vulnerability and her desire to “Put on My Fur Coat”, which was one of my favorite poems. It was kind of like the opposite of the poems that deal with the sadness and loss; or at least, it was more like a more determined response to the setbacks and sadness that life sometimes offers. I could see this poem being almost anthemic, like Maya Angelou’s “Still I Rise”, offering readers reassurance and support in facing life’s challenges. Other poems around this one, like "The Cactus” and “What I Tell Myself After Waking Up With Fists” also deal with sadness, regret, fear, loneliness, and were poems that I could also relate to. In addition, Wong’s parents feature in both her memoir and her poetry, and the poems that deal with her father’s gambling and transient ways, and her mother’s persistence and determination to make a new life. After reading her memoir, I appreciated these poems as well, and they deal with the complicated emotions of having a parent with addictions. Although I need to return Wong’s collection of poems soon, I’m excited to find more of her work, both in print and online. 





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